Every parent should be a role model to his or her child. Your child is always watching what you do; he/she sees how you handle your emotions, stress, reactions and interactions especially with others. While it is in your territory to raise, provide and nurture your child, it is also important to constantly set an example to emulate, which is a key to raising a wholesome child.
Being a positive role model can be challenging as your child will see the worst sides of you; they watch you deal with life issues, see you when you have failed and at your lowest points. While they absorb the good and the ugly sides of what goes on around them, these tips will help them sieve through and build their habits.
First is to ensure you are keen on self-improvement; this should always be on our minds. Ensure you try new experiences and broaden your horizons, this will teach our children to never stop growing, as there’s always something new to learn in this life. Try to learn something new every day.
Engage in healthy living by eating properly and exercising regularly. This will not only improve your life, but also set an example for your child. While this is important to avert childhood obesity, which could lead to depression and disease, parents should also not go overboard as moderation is key. The focus should be on a healthy lifestyle.
Make it a regular habit to serve and volunteer especially as a family. It is a good way to build family unity, teamwork skills and groom a child with a generous heart. Constantly teach your child to put the needs of others into consideration and be open to lend a helping hand where necessary.
More importantly, live an open life and do not hide who you are as a person to your child. Share your past experiences with both mistakes and victories, when appropriate. Show him that vulnerability is a virtue that comes from a position of strength. Take your child to work with you and let them see your daily life. Status doesn’t mean a thing, but your attitude and your character mean the world.
This is also applicable to your self-control. How you go about releasing emotions in front of your child has its consequences, either positive or negative. As difficult as it can be, it is essential to practice self-control as much as possible in front of your child. Bite your tongue and control that temper. If need be, take it out in the gym or go for a long run.
Build the right relationships, as it is key. Not all relationships can be pleasant especially among extended family members as there can be issues arising from your brothers, sisters, parents or in-laws, be the peacemaker and seek to have a cordial relationship with everyone. Make it as hard as possible for anyone to say anything bad about you. Be an initiator and always take personal responsibility first.
Always be respectful and give a listening ear, this teaches kids how to be confident by showing respect for who they are and listening to their own unique thoughts. This is a tough aspect of leadership, but the best leaders listen carefully and talk far less. Open your mind and your ears to what your children are telling you. They will, in turn, learn to do the same later in life.
Most importantly, as parents, you should always say what you mean and mean what you say. Let your words be backed by concrete action. Be a parent who stands by his words as it increases your value and worth.